How to Support Neurodivergent Kids in the Classroom

Dear Teachers: A Note from an ND Parent

I write to you at the beginning of a school year to say a huge, heartfelt THANK YOU.

Thank you for showing up every day to nurture, guide, and inspire our kids.

Thank you for the energy you pour into shaping their young minds and for the incredible patience you show when faced with the chaos of a busy (and noisy, and challenging, and at times a bit gross and smelly) classroom.

As the parent of a neurodivergent (ND) child, I see you and your efforts, and I appreciate you more than I can ever say.

As the school year begins, I find myself feeling a mix of emotions—hope, anxiety, fear, and endless wishes.

I hope this year brings my child emotional and academic growth.

I worry whether their unique abilities will be seen and supported.

I fear the moments when they might feel left out or misunderstood.

And more than anything, I wish for joy and understanding to meet them every day.

So, I’m writing this letter not only as a little self-therapy (from a mum who needs to say her bit and can’t quite step away) but also as an honest insight into the world of ND parenting.

What It’s Like to Be an ND Parent

Imagine walking through life feeling like you’re headed somewhere, only to realise halfway that you’ve got the directions wrong (and yes, this happens literally, too). That’s what parenting a neurodivergent child feels like. While other parents seem to be navigating familiar routines, we’re forging new ones, constantly confronted with detour signs and unexpected roadblocks.

We celebrate victories that might seem small to others: getting out of the house without tears, a meltdown-free day, socks that “felt right” on the first try, or a moment of unexpected bravery in a crowded assembly room.

One particularly proud moment for me is the time my child spoke, with incredible confidence at a whole-school assembly. He was so nervous, but he found his courage and was so proud of himself afterwards. Moments like that remind me of how much strength and potential they have.

We’re constantly juggling: navigating sensory sensitivities, decoding emotional storms, and trying to stay present in a conversation about hyper-focus (while quietly panicking about how late we are). It’s an endless game of troubleshooting.

When we send our ND children to school, we’re trusting you with something more than their education. We’re trusting you to make them feel safe, valued, and capable in a world that often doesn’t make room for difference.

What ND Kids Need from Teachers

Every child is different, and that’s especially true for neurodivergent kids. But if I could ask for a few things, it would be these:

Patience Over Perfection

ND children often need extra time to process instructions or settle into a task. Rushing them doesn’t just add pressure, it can create anxiety that makes everything harder. But a little patience? That can make all the difference in helping them feel safe, capable, and ready to try.

Flexibility in Approach

Rigid rules can feel overwhelming for ND children. One teacher made a huge difference for my child by offering flexible seating options. Sitting near friends might sound ideal, but for my child, it often leads to distraction and anxiety. Having the option to work in a quiet corner gave him the focus and calm he needed to succeed.

Proactive Communication

Please don’t wait for things to go wrong before reaching out. Tell me what you’re noticing. Us ND parents love feedback! It allows us to work together to find solutions and support. If you’re unsure where to start, tools like ADDitude Magazine’s resources for teachers can help.

Empathy, Not Assumptions

Behaviour is communication. If my child is struggling to stay seated or blurts out an answer, it’s not because they’re “acting out.” It’s because their brain processes things differently. Look deeper, and you’ll often find the real story behind the behaviour. For practical tips on navigating behaviour, check out Yellow LadyBugs.

Celebrate Their Strengths

ND children often have remarkable creativity, problem-solving skills, or empathy. One teacher once turned my child’s special interest into a class project! The outcome was brilliant. Seeing their passion celebrated gave them confidence and helped them feel truly valued.

A Thank-You to Teachers

I know teaching isn’t easy. Your days are long, your to-do list is endless, and you’re juggling so much already. The last thing I want is to add more to your plate.

What I’m asking for is a partnership. A chance for us to work together as teammates, cheering for my child and celebrating all the unique things they bring to the classroom. (I’ll even bring the pom-poms!)

Thank you for everything you do. And yes, I’m apologising in advance for the lengthy emails and questions you’ll inevitably get from me—but please, don’t block my address!

Thank you for reading. If this letter resonates, share it with a fellow teacher who might find it helpful. Let’s start the school year with a commitment to understanding, empathy, and collaboration.

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Warmest,

An ND Parent xo